Ask Christopher West

Christopher and Wendy West answer questions about faith, life, love, and sexuality, in light of John Paul II's Theology of the Body.

About the show

Since the early 90's, author and speaker Christopher West has devoted his life to spreading John Paul II's revolutionary teaching on human life, love, and sexuality: The Theology of the Body. His beloved wife Wendy, mother of their five children, has served as his confidante, friend, and support through these long years of ministry. In this podcast, Christopher and Wendy combine their wisdom to tackle the toughest questions dealing with vocation, sexuality, marriage, and the Catholic faith.

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Episodes

  • Redirection of Desire, Sleeping in the Same Bed & the Dignity of Every Man & Woman

    June 17th, 2024  |  46 mins 50 secs
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    • What are some examples redirecting our desire (eros) in everyday life?
    • Is there anything inherently wrong with sleeping in the same bed as a long distance girlfriend when we visit each other? Is the near occasion of sin still a sin if I don’t end up sinning?
    • Where is this quote by John Paul II from: “It is the duty of every man to uphold the dignity of every woman”?
  • Aroused by Displays of Affection, Receiving the Eucharist in Mortal Sin & Getting Married Young

    June 16th, 2024  |  48 mins 43 secs
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    • I’m dating a wonderful man. I’m very sensitive to physical touch and get aroused very easily. Even holding hands results in arousal. Do you have any advice? Is it okay to keep showing those displays of affection even though they are accompanied by arousal?
    • Why is it a mortal sin to receive the Eucharist in a state of sin? Is the Lord not seeking for us to receive him even when we’re separated from him? Do you have any advice for raising children to feel comfortable refraining from the Eucharist without fear of judgment from those around them?
    • I hear so many religious people saying we should get married young. I’ll be 32 soon but I long for marriage. Should I give up on what I so desperately want because of people who clearly know about this topic?
  • Relationship With My Deceased Baby, P*rn Struggle & Compassion from God and for Others

    June 3rd, 2024  |  47 mins 39 secs
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    • My husband and I are approaching the 25th anniversary of the birth and death of our second born. All this time later, I realize I wish I had a better relationship with him. Do you have any suggestions on how to go about nursing a relationship with my baby on this side of heaven before we are reunited again?
    • I’ve struggled with porn the majority of my life but I’ve been trying to identify what keeps drawing me back. This struggle leads me to have many anxieties and fears which don’t allow me to live life to the full. Do you have any advice?
    • Do you think it’s possible to have a connection with someone who does not show us compassion? How can one receive compassion from God in our lives? If we do feel compassion from God, can that help in forming a connection for someone whom we don’t feel it?
  • Satisfied with God But Longing for a Husband, Struggle with M*sturbation as a Woman & Protestant Teaching on Contraception

    May 27th, 2024  |  59 mins 3 secs
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    • I’ve heard it said that maybe the reason one hasn’t met their spouse is because God wants wants you to be content solely with Him. But if I get to a point where I am entirely satisfied by God and only Him, then would I even want a spouse at that point? How do I tell God I love Him above all but that I also want a husband?
    • I’ve struggled with masturbation since I was a little girl. I met a wonderful priest who helped me stop, not because of any particular advice but because of his profound love for me. At some point I moved away and fell into the old habit. I feel discouraged and don’t see a path forward. Do you have any advice?
    • I’m a protestant that recently got engaged. I’m somewhat familiar with the protestant position on contraception. I’ve done more study on the Catholic position and I see a lot of beauty in it. Why is it wrong to separate the pleasurable and procreative aspects of sex within marriage? Can a husband and wife not express their love for each other by giving themselves to the other for the intimacy and pleasure that sex brings?
  • Cooperation with Evil, Appreciating Masculinity and Guarding One’s Heart

    May 20th, 2024  |  44 mins 51 secs
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    • I work for a subsidiary of a large national pharmacy that will soon start to distribute abortion pills. Do you have any advice for discerning the line between remote and material cooperation with evil? How should I determine when it’s time to start working for a new company?
    • I grew up as the oldest child of a narcissistic father and was verbally abused my entire life. I’m in my mid 20’s and I want to pursue the vocation God has for me, but I’m also terrified by the idea of marriage. Do you have any tips on how to appreciate masculinity? How can I recognize moments of contention that may indicate that I need healing and growth?
    • I’m attracted to a good and holy Catholic man and desire to pursue a relationship but I’m unsure if he feels the same way. I know the Lord is calling me to not bring the matter up to him, but to be patient and wait. How do I guard my heart when it desires more than friendship? How can I do this without shedding out the possibility of a relationship?
  • “Jesus’ Hostility Towards the Body”, “The Main Goal of Intercourse” & “Bowing for Incense”

    May 13th, 2024  |  43 mins 40 secs
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    • Jesus seems to be hostile towards the body in Mt 5:29-31. How does that go together with the sacramentality of our bodies?
    • What is the main goal of the union between man and woman?
    • Why do people bow for incense?
  • “International Marriage”, “Disturbing Images In Prayer” & “My Husband Doesn’t Want Intimacy”

    May 6th, 2024  |  56 mins 32 secs
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    • What would you say about an international marriage? Do you think it’s better to marry someone from your own culture?
    • I was exposed to porn at an early age and that led to an addiction to it. Obscene and disturbing images come to mind particularly in moments of deep prayer. Do you have any advice?
    • I’m the one who pursues intimacy in my marriage and my husband is not really interested in it. Do you have any advice?
  • "God & Menopause", "Girlfriend's Sexual Past" & "Infertility from Chemotherapy"

    April 29th, 2024  |  58 mins 41 secs
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    • Does God like menopause?
    • My girlfriend has a sexual past including a 2 year relationship with a guy that she was sexually intimate with. I saved myself for marriage and this has been very difficult for me. I’m unsure if she repents of her past or not. Do you have any advice?
    • I’m dating and in love with a man who is infertile after starting chemotherapy for cancer. We’re starting to talk about marriage but the fact that he’s infertile has come up. Is it wrong to get married knowing he’s infertile.
  • "Wearing Grandma", "Afraid of Being Alone", & "Intercourse in Pregnancy"

    April 22nd, 2024  |  43 mins 23 secs
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    • I’m a teacher and the other day, one of my 5th graders walked up to me and told me he was “wearing his grandma.” He was wearing an ash necklace where he was holding the ashes of his deceased grandmother. What is the difference between the Catholic tradition of relics and keeping an “ash necklace”
    • How can I tell the difference between loving someone and being afraid of being alone?
    • What does intercourse in pregnancy say about the beauty and goodness of God?
  • "Wanting To Go Back", "Faith Jealousy" & "TOB Resources for Children"

    April 15th, 2024  |  34 mins 26 secs
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    • I’m in my 30’s and I’ve been married for a few years. My past was full of addiction to porn. I’ve been able to heal and overcome those past but I find myself wanting to go back. I also find myself thinking life would’ve been easier if I had married someone else. Do you have any advice?
    • What advice do you have for someone whose 1 year relationship just ended with her partner expressing doubts about life, work, relationships and feeling jealous of my faith?
    • Do you have any recommendations for resources for parents to teach their children about puberty and sex from a Catholic point of view?
  • "Bonding as Adoptive Parents" & "Practical Good Eros"

    April 8th, 2024  |  48 mins 59 secs
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    • Soon after my husband and I got married I had cancer and needed to get a hysterectomy. My husband and I adopted our son a year ago. I notice that my husband didn’t bond with me like first time parents typically do. I have trouble sitting with the desire to want to be ministered to as a pregnant woman. Do you have any advice?
    • I have been steeped in pornography for most of my life but I’ve been free for over a year now. My tendency towards lust is still present and strong. At this point I don’t know what good eros towards a woman would feel like. What does good eros feels like practically?
  • "Attracting Certain Kind of Women", "Marriage or Monastery" & "Man & Woman Stranded on an Island..."

    April 1st, 2024  |  46 mins 7 secs
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    • As a young man in my mid twenties, I long for a godly woman. However, I’ve questioned my intentions about this yearning and wondered if my ambitions to get in shape, make a good living and develop a closer relationship with God could just be a cover for worshipping an idol of attracting a certain kind of woman. How can I learn to integrate these ambitions with becoming the kind of man God wants me to be.
    • I want to get married but I see many huge challenges in raising a family. I wonder if it would be safer to join a monastery despite my strong desire for marriage. Do you have any advice?
    • If a man and a woman were stranded alone in an island with no foreseeable way of ever leaving or having access to the Sacraments. Could they marry and raise a family?