Mother’s Grief Meets God’s Presence, Ache of Unseen Love, and "That Sucks" | ACW316

Questions answered this episode:

1. I’m a mother of 5 living children. I’ve lost 2 daughters from miscarriage within the past year. My womb has become a tomb for 2 deeply desired little girls. I was unable to hold my baby girl after the first miscarriage, but my second loss occurred after 16 weeks. My body did not detect the loss and I was induced to deliver her at almost 20 weeks. She was perfectly formed and my husband and I were able to spend hours with her. A couple of days later when my milk came in, my own body was begging to give her what she needed. Death is the barrier between our bodies meeting each other’s needs as baby and mama. In between her birth and burial there was a time where I was able to hold her and had the most profound experience with the Holy Spirit I’ve ever live. This experience allowed me to praise God at a moment where that’s the least I wanted to do. My heart is torn out. Do you have any insight?
2. I’m struggling with a recurring issue: I’ll come to know or get acquainted with some girl who I will develop a crush on. From there I’ll start to dream about dating, marrying and creating a family with her. However this will usually give way to a sinking realization that not only will it very likely not come to pass but that she’ll be gone very soon and I’ll never see her again. I pray for these women hoping that in heaven I’ll be reunited with them. Is there anything else you’d recommend in this situation?
3. It recently dawned on me that saying “that sucks” likely originated from a vulgar sexual act. I’ve been using these words and casual speech with all sorts of people. Lately, I’ve been thinking about speaking modestly and wondering wether using this phrase might be sinful. I understand it would be rude and uncharitable to tell someone they suck, but if someone’s going through a tough time, can I in good conscience say to them “that sucks”? Is this an expression I should avoid saying? Could you shed some light on this topic?

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