Episode 148

I Choose You | ACW148


November 1st, 2021

44 mins 46 secs

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About this Episode

What resources would you recommend for women longing to be married who cannot find a man? What are some good reasons to stop having kids? What is the best way to help a friend who is repeatedly falling into sexual sin?

Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body.

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Hi! This is actually not a question, rather I just want to tell you how much I appreciate the work that you do. And I just want to share that I am so happy to be a part of this community. I’ve been watching your YouTube channel and listening to your podcast for months now. And this month I have finally become a Patron! This is actually my birthday gift to myself :) God is so amazing; He provided me resources to be able to pay for the subscription. God bless you Christopher and Wendy and the whole team behind this community.

Patron Question:
Dear Christopher and Wendy,
A situation I often face in my ministry is that of a woman wishing to get married and have a family, but not finding a man. I’ll see this person as years pass and realize how far away I am, as a man, from really understanding the depths of this suffering; that these women are somehow facing a countdown.
I’m actually hoping you can recommend some Theology of the Body resources for a woman in such a situation. Any suggestions?

Question 2:
I am discerning marriage with a strong Catholic woman, and we are trying to be really practical with our conversations about children. I have always been so moved by the call to be fruitful in marriage. I find it so close to the heart of God and how he wants to teach us about his creative love. It’s really hard for me to consider anything other than continuing to try over the course of our marriage, every couple years, until menopause. She is more specific in her thinking than I am, and anticipates that between her body and capacity to love her kids and spouse, she really doesn’t expect to be able to handle more than 4 (which is reasonable, she’s 31 years old). I know we can’t predict if we will even be able to have kids, but there is something that just doesn’t sit right with me about projecting limits. I honestly believe that we can pull off whatever we need to financially, and I want to lay down my life down for her and as many kids come our way. It makes me sad to anticipate that putting her needs above my own might include stopping having kids when we could have more. I don’t know how I could ask my wife to throw out her back or have more kids if I’m really laying my life down for her, but I’m so moved by the thought of continual openness to sacrifice to have more children, in love. Perhaps the question is, what are some good reasons to stop having kids?

Qestion 3:
Hi Christopher and Wendy! I want to briefly say thank you to Wendy, for extending your motherly warmth and compassion to all of us during this podcast, it has been so healing for me. My question is, how do you help a friend who was raised Catholic and intellectually knows the church’s teachings and even desires to live them and be in relationship with the Lord. . . how do I help them when they keep falling into sexual sin, go to confession, and continue to fall in the same way? I don’t know how to best lead them to the merciful love of the Father.

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Resources mentioned this week:

National Catholic Singles Conference

Theology of the Body for Beginners by Christopher West

Freedom Coaching

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