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How can I pursue Theology of the Body when my husband isn't on board? Will we still be male and female after the resurrection of the body? Is marriage worth fighting for?

Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body.

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Patron Question:
While I was baptized Catholic and received the Sacraments, I was not raised in a family that practiced the faith. I’m a married mother of 3 children but felt that something was missing in my life. I had a profound conversion while attending a Cursillo weekend 3 years ago. Since then, my husband has grown further and further away from me because he says, "I have changed." We have tried 4 different marriage therapists, the last 2 being Catholic (one was from Dr. Popcak's group), but when it comes to him making changes and really putting in effort he quits going and says he doesn't need to change anything. If I go to him and tell him I want to pursue not only learning Theology of the Body but also living it out in our marriage, it may be the last straw for him. So my question is, how can I pursue this without him on board? How can I teach this to my children if they don't see it at work in their own home?

Question 2:
In a recent conversation about the resurrection of the body, a friend of mine told me that she doesn't believe our resurrected bodies will be male or female in heaven. Her reasoning is that, because the Bible says we are neither "married nor given in marriage" in heaven, then the sexual difference is no longer necessary in eternity. Also, since we're made in the image of God (who is pure spirit and therefore neither male nor female), she thinks that our glorified bodies will more "perfectly" image God by becoming gender neutral.

In light of St. John Paul II's Theology of the Body, what is the proper response to my friend's ideas? Does the Catholic Church have any official teaching on this, and if so, is there anything in the Catechism or the Bible about it?

Qestion 3:
Thank you so much for your podcast.
My husband is suffering from a mental health issue and lately it has made our lives difficult. I have never had any issue with fidelity in the past but the last months it has become a daily inner-fight. Could you please remind me what I am fighting for?

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